Most women who were raised in Soviet times are accustomed to helping everyone and everyone. They will dip with their heads in other people's problems and life, just to send relative and loved ones.
These tireless bees prepare her husband first, second, third and dessert, remove apartments to children (while those at work), give them part of their income, water grandchildren in the circles and sections and the like ...
But are such victims need? After all, at best, for the efforts they are thrown by a stupid thanks. And in the worst, they will find out what to find fault ... Say, the apartment was not licensed enough, the borsch was shifted, and the cat was not looking for money.
It is strange that instead of standing for myself and say to offenders: "Next time you do without me!", "These women are still deeper rushing to the Omut of life. At the same time, they feel extremely guilty: they say they did not please the ship, they tried badly ...
Low self-esteem
Psychologists argue that such behavior is a direct consequence of children's nursery. Most likely, such women were awesome in a small age: parents rarely praised, and love had to earn good actions. With age, it became a habit, and the surrounding began to use all-friendly reliability.
What to do a tired woman who does not want to endure ignorance from the relatives? First of all, it should be aware of the simple thing: a personal understanding of myself should not depend on someone else's opinion! The husband can simply be not in the mood, the chef is to suffer from migraine, and the daughter is upset.
It is also important to focus on your needs. People who day long think about the good of others, completely forget about their own interests. It is extremely wrong! After all, if a person puts a cross on himself, he gives a speedy reason to the rest of the rest in his values.
It is important to stop laying your dreams for later. If once there was a desire to go to foreign language courses, boldly become self-education. If all my life collected money on the journey, realize the dream right now! Remember, you have the right to our own desires and goals.
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