Abaningi bakhononda ukuthi abazali asebekhulile bebengabekezeleleki: njalo, kucasulwa, kucasulwe. Isifiso sokubasiza baphenduke abakhethiweyo, umnotho ububi, nothando lokukhuluma - emzameni wokuphuma ebhizinisini lakhe.
Imiyalo ngokukhonza kwabazali. Ngeke uphikisane naye ... kepha ungayenza kanjani? Ungayifunda kanjani futhi uyihloniphe lapho abazali behlupheka nathi?
Ungaphakamisela Kanjani Abazali
Ochwepheshe bezengqondo bakholelwa ukuthi imbangela yecala le-Starikovsky, ukuvalwa, ukungaphatheki kahle kungukungakhululeki ngokomoya. Ngokunokwenzeka, umuntu uzizwa engajabule, engadingekile, endala, egula. Ukuqunjelwa kwangaphakathi kwakha imizwa engemihle egadla abanye.
Kwenzeka ukuthi imvelo ichithwe ngenxa yokugula. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma umuntu ehlushwa ukugula kanzima, ahlala enamandla, ayasebenza futhi ejabule kakhulu.
Eziningi, vele, zilwa nobuhlungu, futhi ngesimo sengqondo esingesihle, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi "zigoqeka" futhi kubo - bayakhala, bacashunwe, bazivalelisa.
I-Conservatism kanye nokwenqatshwa kwesigaba kokusha nakho kukude kakhulu nokukhonjiswa njalo umlingiswa ophayowe. Iqiniso ngukuthi ngo-75-80, umuntu ubhujiswa ngama-30- 40% ama-neurons ebuchosheni.
Izinga lokubona nokucutshungulwa kwemininingwane lincishisiwe. Ngakho-ke, abantu abadala abanasici lapho benqaba ukuyazi kahle i-smartphone ethuliwe - kunzima ngempela ukuthi bakwenze.
Ngakho-ke yeka ukuthukuthela futhi ucasulwe ngabazali asebekhulile: uma bekuthola, nakanjani akunjalo. Zama ukuzungeza ukunakekelwa nokunakwa. Isihleli "Silula!" Thatha imishwana emi-4 ezosiza ukusungula ubudlelwano.
- Usizo
Abantu asebekhulile bavame ukubhekana neqiniso lokuthi usizo lwabo alusadingeki. Impilo yakhe yonke babekhuthele: basebenza, bakhulisa izingane, bahlanganyela ezindabeni zomphakathi. Futhi ngaleso sikhathi lapho wonke umuntu esekhulile, futhi impesheni yaba ngokoqobo, isiza kakade futhi akekho.
Khumbula, umuzwa wokubaluleka nokubaluleka kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu asebekhulile. Ngakho-ke, buza umama noma ubaba ngosizo, noma ngabe ungenza yonke into ngokwakho. Ungacela umama wakho ukuthi asize ngokupheka noma ngokususa abazukulu.
Ngokuvamile, ukusungula ukwedlula abazali kungaba wusizo. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuvikela ukubonakala kokungabi nalusizo kubazali.
- Ngicela ungeluleke
Abantu asebekhulile bathanda ukweluleka. Baphila impilo, banolwazi olukhulu ngemuva kwemihlane yabo, futhi banokuthile abangabelana nabo.
Noma ngabe usakwenza ngendlela yami, buza unyoko noma upapa loMkhandlu ngezihloko ezahlukahlukene. Lokhu kuzobasiza ukuthi bahlale besesimweni esihle futhi bazizwe ukubaluleka kwabo.
- Ngifuna ngempela ukukuqonda
Imvamisa ubudlelwano phakathi kwezingane ezindala nabazali bakhelwa kulo mqondo "kufanele - akufanele". Vele, akulungile.
Kepha ngeshwa, lokhu kuyenzeka, ngoba asebekhulile balimala kakhulu futhi bavame ukungabi namuntu ongaba nalo lokho akwenzayo kubo eshawini (futhi kaningi besaba imicabango yabo).
Ngakho-ke, zama ukuqonda abazali bakho futhi ubatshele ukuthi awufuni ukufeza umsebenzi wakho, kepha ufisa ukuba nobudlelwano obuqinile nobuqotho. Ukuba khona kwabo kuzosiza izinto eziningi.
- Ngiyabonga ...
Kukangaki lapho sibonga abazali babo? Ngeshwa, hhayi kaningi. Ngenxa yokuthi ubudlelwane bakhelwe ngomqondo womsebenzi, asinaso isisusa sangaphakathi sokubonga abazali. Ngisho nezinto ezincane. Futhi abantu asebekhulile bakudinga kakhulu, njengoba bafuna ukuqiniseka ukuthi baphila ngeze.
Abantu akufanele basolwe ngeqiniso lokuthi bangabantu nje nje. Abanye bethu baguga futhi bavuka ezifweni naseminyakeni yobudala baseTiranans, kanti abanye bahlala eduzane - futhi bahlupheka, benezinkinga eziningi nezibopho ezinwebeka emsebenzini.
Hhayi emandleni ethu ukukhansela ukuguga komzali, kepha siyakwazi ukwenza lokho elizokwenza lula impilo yethu ehlanganayo, kuzokwenza kube novalo kancane, kakhulu ukuze sibe namandla anele okukhumbula: Womabili amaqembu anokuningi kakhulu Isikhathi esincane sokuthandana naphezu kwakho konke.
Amafilimu ngesiyaluyalu empilweni yomndeni kwesinye isikhathi asisiza ukubheka ubuhlobo babo kusuka ohlangothini. Ungaphuthelwa ithuba lakho lokwenza futhi usindise umndeni - ujwayelane nokukhethwa kwethu kwamafilimu amahle kakhulu wobudlelwano obuqinile.
Abazali abacabangayo nsuku zonke batshela ingane le mishwana eyi-8! Isihleli "Silula!" Sitshele ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzwa izingane ezivela kubazali bethu nokuthi yiziphi izici zomlingiswa ezikhulayo.
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