Cishe ubuwuzwe kaninginingi okukhulunywa ngaye kwabazali "abakhulumi nabantu ongabazi." Kepha yini okufanele yenze ezimweni lapho ingane isengozini yangempela futhi izidingo zisiza umuntu ongaziwa - ngokwesibonelo, iphoyisa? Ababelethi banamuhla bafundisa izingane zabo umthetho olula ongazivikela ekuthumbeni.
UJody Norton, umama wezingane ezine, usanda kutshelwa kubhulogi lakhe, njengoba esisodwa isifundo esilula sasindisa amadodana akhe amabili. Futhi nansi indaba yakhe kusukela kumuntu wokuqala.
Ezinsukwini ezintathu ezedlule, lapho ngisemiphefumulweni, ngazizwa ngibuhlungu kakhulu esibelethweni. Ngathola amandla anele okugqoka futhi kanye nezingane zami ezine ukuya eMnyangweni Ophuthumayo wendawo.
Ngaleso sikhashana, lapho, ngenxa yobuhlungu, empeleni angizange ngiqonde lutho, ngashiya amadodana ami adala - i-ti-dong eneminyaka engu-8 ubudala noTi dong oneminyaka engu-8 ubudala - ngaphandle kwebhentshi elinde umakhelwane wethu, ubani Ngokuqinisekile wanikela ngawo ukuba azenzele futhi abayisa esikoleni.
Kuphela lapho abafana bami bebuyela ekhaya ngo-15: 30, ngifunde ukuthi basephuze kakhulu esikoleni. Ngakholelwa ngephutha ukuthi umakhelwane uzoya kubo evela endlini yakhe, eyayineminyaka emihlanu, kodwa eqinisweni, amadodana ami ayelinde egumbini lezimo eziphuthumayo imizuzu engama-40. Indaba yabo ngokwenzeka ngalesi sikhathi ingenza ngathuthumela ngesabekayo futhi ngasikhathi sinye ngiziqhenya ngabo.
Ngenkathi behleli ebhentshini, le ntombazane yafika kubo phakathi kwamapulangwe amabili yabuza, ingabe bangaya endlini encane, lapho umfana wakhe ecashe khona kodokotela, futhi amese ukuthi aphumele eselashwe.
Ngisho nangemva kokuba uSigi ephendule ngokuthi "Cha," abazange bahlale ngemuva.
"Ngiyacela, ungamsindisa impilo, uma nje uye endlini yangasese umtshele ukuthi uphephile," le ntombazane yaqhubeka ihlale.
Ngokusho kwabahleli, kuphela ngemuva kokuhluleka kwabathathu, umfokazi wanikela futhi ahamba. Lapho umakhelwane efika kubafana bami, bakwazile ukubona ukuthi umfokazi wesine uphume kanjani endlini yangasese wagxumela emotweni waya kwabathathu bokuqala, ngemuva kwalokho ashiye.
Ngenkathi amadodana engitshela le ndaba, amehlo ami ayezungezwe ngokumangala.
Intukuthelo yami nokushaqeka kuguqulwe kwaba ukwaziswa okukhulu. USigi ubuye wathi wakhumbula izeluleko zami, ezazisiza ukuba zigweme ukuthunjwa.
"Mama, ngangazi ukuthi bangabantu ababi, ngoba basicela ukuba sibasize. Abantu abadala abaceli izingane ngosizo. "
"Yekani ugqugquzela izingane zakho ukuthi azamukelekiswa ngabantu ongabazi - ubhala umhleli wezinsizakusebenza ngokuphepha mayelana nokukhuliswa kwePatty Finezgeraldd. - Mhlawumbe ngolunye usuku kuzofanela zikhulume nomuntu ongayazi. Bafundise kangcono ukuthola ukuthi abantu ongabazi bayingozi yini. "
UPatty uphinde atuse ukucela izingane ukuba zikhumbule umthetho owodwa olula lapho amadodana kaJody alalelisise khona: Abadala abangacabangi ukuthi abasoze babuza izingane ngokusiza, bazophendukela kwabanye abantu abadala.
Isisho esithi "saxwayisa - sisho ahlomile", ngokungangabazeki uphathelene nezingane zethu. Ngeke sikwazi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuba sibe seduze kokubavikela ezinkingeni, kodwa singawafaka amandla futhi siqeqeshe konke okufanele kwenziwe ezimweni ezinjalo.
UJody wabika ngalesi sigameko emaphoyiseni, okwathi ngemuva kwalokho bathatha amarekhodi avela kumakhamera wokubhekwa kwevidiyo esibhedlela bese eqala leli cala. Le ndaba ibuye isikhumbuze ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuchaza izingane zakho, ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani nabantu ongabazi futhi ubale labo abangamelana nosongo wangempela phakathi kwabo. Ngesinye isikhathi, lolu lwazi lungasindisa izingane zakho impilo!
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