Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uye wayiva ephindaphindisweni yabazali "akathethi nabantu abangabaziyo." Kodwa yintoni onokuyenza kwiimeko xa umntwana esengozini yokwenene kwaye iimfuno ziyanceda umntu ongamaziyo - umzekelo, ipolisa? Abazali bale mihla bafundisa abantwana babo umthetho olula onokuzikhusela ekuthinteleni.
UJody Norton, Umama wabantwana abane, kutshanje uxelele kwibhlog yakhe, njengesifundo esinye esilula esisindisa oonyana bakhe bobabini. Nali ibali lakhe elivela kumntu wokuqala.
Kwiintsuku ezintathu ezidlulileyo, xa ndandisemphefumlweni, ndaziva ndinentlungu enkulu kwi-ovary. Ndinamandla aneleyo okunxiba kunye nabantwana bam abane ukuya kwiSebe likaxakeka.
Okwalo mzuzu, xa, ngenxa yentlungu, ndangaqaphela nantoni na, ndalushiya oonyana bam oneminyaka eli-10 kunye ne-ti-onney-oneminyaka emi-8. Unomdla wokuzinikezela ukuba uzenzele kwaye ubase esikolweni.
Kuphela kuxa amakhwenkwe am abuyele ekhaya nge-15: 30, ndafumanisa ukuba bafika kude esikolweni. Ngempazamo, bendikholelwa ukuba ummelwane uza kubo endlwini yakhe, eyayikude imizuzu emihlanu, kodwa, eneneni, oonyana bam balinda kwigumbi likaxakeka kangangemizuzu engama-40. Ibali labo malunga nento eyenzekileyo ngeli xesha indenze ndangcungcuthekiswa kwale nto eyoyikisayo kwaye kwangaxeshanye ndinekratshi ngabo.
Ngelixa babehleli ebhentshini, intombazana yeza kubo kwiqela leepaks ezimbini kwaye labuza, banokuya kwigumbi lokuphumla, apho umntu wakhe wayefihla khona koogqirha, kwaye emqinisekisa ukuba ahambe ahambe afumane unyango.
Kwanasemva kokuba uSigi Gaid waphendula wathi: "Hayi, khange bahambe emva.
"Nceda, ungamsindisa ubomi, ukuba uyaya kwindlu yangasese kwaye umxelele ukuba ukhuselekile," intombazana yaqhubeka ikhuselekile.
Ngokokuhlala, kuphela emva kokusilela ezintathu, umntu ongamaziyo wanikezela. Xa ummelwane ekugqibeleni wafika kumakhwenkwe am, bakwazi ukubona ukuba baphuma njani endlini yangasese kwaye batsiba emotweni ukuya kwabathathu, emva koko bakumka.
Ngelixa oonyana bandixelela eli bali, amehlo am akhula ngakumbi ngenxa yokumangaliswa.
Umsindo wam nothuke othuswe bubuxabisa kakhulu. Kwakhona uSigi ukwathi ukuba ukhumbule icebiso lam, elibancedayo ekuthinteleni.
"Mama, ndandisazi ukuba bangabadala, kuba basicela ukuba sibancede. Abantu abadala abaceli abantwana malunga noncedo. "
"STOP ukhuthalele abantwana bakho ukuba abanakwamkelwa ngabantu abangabaziyo- ubhala ngokukhuselekileyo umhleli wokukhula malunga nokukhuliswa kwePatty Fitzgerald. Kungenzeka ngenye imini kuya kufuneka athethe nendoda engaqondakaliyo. Bafundise ngcono ukujonga ukuba yintoni abangabaziyo kuyingozi. "
UPatty naye ucebisa ukuba abantwana bakhumbule omnye umgaqo olula abaphulaphule oonyana bakaJody: Abantu abanokucinga ukuba bazoyikiso ngekhe babuze abantwana ngoncedo, baya kuguqukela kwabanye abantu abadala.
Ibinzana elithi "lilumkisile - lithetha i-AGGS", ngokungathandabuzekiyo ichaphazela abantwana bethu. Asiyi kuhlala sikwazi ukusondela ukubakhusela engxakini, kodwa sinokubabeka ngamandla kwaye siqeqeshe yonke into abafanele bayenze kwiimeko ezinjalo.
UJody uxele esi siganeko emapoliseni, emva koko bathatha iirekhodi ezivela kwikhamera yokuphononongwa kwevidiyo kwaye baqala ityala. Eli bali liphinde lisikhumbuza indlela ekubaluleke ngayo ukubacacisela abantwana bakho, indlela yokuziphatha ngayo nabantu ongabaziyo kwaye ubale abo banokuba nesisongelo sokwenene phakathi kwabo. Ngenye imini, olu lwazi lunokusindisa abantwana bakho ubomi!
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